Apostle Grace Lubega
Genesis 35:19-22 (KJV); And Rachel died, and was buried in the way to Ephrath, which is Bethlehem. And Jacob set a pillar upon her grave: that is the pillar of Rachel’s grave unto this day. And Israel journeyed, and spread his tent beyond the tower of Edar. And it came to pass, when Israel dwelt in that land, that Reuben went and lay with Bilhah his father’s concubine: and Israel heard it. Now the sons of Jacob were twelve:
When you study the unfortunate circumstances under which Reuben, Jacob’s eldest son decided to sleep with his father’s concubine Bilhah (Rachel’s handmaiden), you will find that it was because he wanted to ruin her in his father’s eyes and frustrate the continued attachment of his father to Rachel.
The root of this was in the bitterness that Leah, Jacob’s first wife and his mother, had nursed all her life because Rachel was preferred and loved by Jacob while she did not enjoy such favour with her husband. This same bitterness had infested her children.
There is a fundamental lesson herein for any parent. Never speak ill of your spouse or whine about how terrible they are in the presence of your children. A child should never be put in the very uncomfortable position of having to pick sides between parents.
I have known women who have sat down with their children and expounded to them all the evils of their fathers. Some men also indulge in this bizarre habit and point out their spouse’s weakness in the hearing of their children.
If you have an issue with your spouse, do not complain to your children. Take it to God. The covenant that you entered is between you, your spouse and the God who joined you together. Hallelujah!
FURTHER STUDY: Ephesians 5:25; Colossians 4:6
GOLDEN NUGGET: Never speak ill of your spouse or whine about how terrible they are in the presence of your children. A child should never be put in the very uncomfortable position of having to pick sides between parents.
PRAYER: Loving Father, I thank You for this wisdom. My words are always with grace and seasoned with salt. I speak evil of no man, most of all my spouse because we are one. What I claim he or she is, is what I am. Thank You for circumcising my lips and teaching me what to say under all circumstances, no matter the provocation, in Jesus’ name, Amen.